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A Sunday afternoon in September 2025. I was on a street in Hong Kong. I turned my head to the left and saw the two sentences written below a shop window. I could hardly recall the exact words written, apart from the rough meaning of \u201cwhat you look for is not the precious things, and the really precious things are not those highly priced.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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By the time, I was meandering in the streets of Mong Kok. On a footbridge, South-East Asian women were chit-chatting and having their weekly picnic en masse<\/em>. I descended the footbridge steps and saw that board about preciousness and price, thinking, \u2018they have Buddhists here in Hong Kong, maybe it is a mystic connection that I come to see them.\u2019 And then, I turned my head back and walked away. I walked fast, did not stay, nor did I take any pictures. I ended up in the Wing Wah Cake Shop for mooncakes, which are not precious, yet highly priced, exactly the opposite of that sign I just saw. 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If I did not leave my sunglasses last night in the sauna locker, I wouldn\u2019t mess about around Shanghai Street the very next afternoon until the sauna reopened, or remind myself of my parents in Shanghai who might like some Mid-Autumn Festival gifts (it turned out that they did not). What a trendy wave I was in! Why has it always been Shanghai that snared me, even when I was visiting Hong Kong? Shang, hai, those two words literally meant sex frustration and medical torments to me, during my life experiences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u6628\u5929\u665a\u4e0a\u6211\u548c\u7537\u53cb\u53bb\u540c\u5fd7\u6d74\u5ba4\u3002\u6216\u8bb8\u662f\u51fa\u4e8e\u6211\u5b58\u7591\u7684\u4e61\u571f\u60c5\u8282\u548c\u5bf9\u7e41\u5fd9\u4e3b\u5e72\u9053\u7684\u538c\u6076\uff0c\u6211\u7279\u5730\u6311\u4e86\u4e0a\u6d77\u8857\u8fd9\u4e00\u540e\u5df7\u4ece\u4f50\u6566\u8d70\u53bb\u65fa\u89d2\u3002\u5728\u6d74\u5ba4\u91cc\uff0c\u6211\u548c\u7537\u53cb\u4e00\u76f4\u6709\u4e00\u4e2a\u5fc3\u7167\u4e0d\u5ba3\u7684\u7ea6\u5b9a\u3002\u6211\u4eec\u4f1a\u4ece\u4e00\u4e2a\u77ac\u95f4\u5f00\u59cb\u4e0d\u8bf4\u8bdd\uff0c\u5f84\u76f4\u8d70\u5411\u4e0e\u5176\u4ed6\u4eba\u53d1\u751f\u7684\u4e8b\u4ef6\uff0c\u54ea\u6015\u5728\u90a3\u5e7d\u6697\u8ff7\u5bab\u91cc\u5076\u7136\u53c8\u76f8\u9047\u4e86\u4e5f\u53ef\u4ee5\u9009\u62e9\u5ffd\u89c6\u5bf9\u65b9\u3002\u76f4\u5230\u53c8\u4e00\u4e2a\u9ed8\u5951\u7684\u77ac\u95f4\u5230\u6765\uff0c\u6211\u4eec\u4f1a\u5728\u4e00\u4e2a\u89d2\u843d\u5f00\u59cb\u804a\u5929\uff0c\u8bf4\u8bf4\u4eca\u665a\u7684\u7ecf\u5386\u3002\u6211\u4eec\u53ef\u80fd\u4f1a\u91cd\u590d\u8fd9\u4e2a\u8fc7\u7a0b\uff0c\u53ef\u80fd\u4e0d\u4f1a\u3002\u90a3\u4e2a\u5468\u516d\u7684\u665a\u4e0a\uff0c\u6d74\u5ba4\u91cc\u7684\u7537\u4eba\u4eec\u50cf\u662f\u5438\u76d8\u4e00\u6837\u5c06\u81ea\u5df1\u8d34\u5728\u5899\u58c1\u4e0a\uff0c\u6cc4\u6b32\u7684\u56de\u97f3\u4ece\u56db\u65b9\u4f20\u6765\u3002\u6211\u5728\u660f\u6697\u4e2d\u6469\u64e6\u7a7f\u884c\uff0c\u540e\u6765\u5f97\u77e5\u4ed6\u5982\u9c7c\u5f97\u6c34\u3002\u6211\u90a3\u665a\u8fd0\u6c14\u4e0d\u7b97\u597d\uff0c\u4e0d\u8fc7\u4e24\u5c0f\u65f6\u5c31\u6ca1\u6709\u4e86\u5174\u81f4\u3002\u4e5f\u5c31\u662f\u5728\u8fd9\u65f6\uff0c\u4e00\u4e2a\u6124\u4e16\u5ac9\u4fd7\u7684\u54f2\u5b66\u5ff5\u5934\u4ece\u6211\u7684\u8111\u6d77\u91cc\u5192\u51fa\u6765\uff0c\u6765\u63a9\u9970\u6211\u7684\u632b\u8d25\u2014\u2014\u6211\u538c\u6076\u9074\u9009\u3002\u5728\u4f17\u4eba\u7684\u6ce8\u89c6\u4e0b\uff0c\u4e00\u4e2a\u6027\u573a\u666f\u4f1a\u53d8\u6210\u5c55\u793a\u548c\u6311\u9009\uff0c\u800c\u4ece\u4e2d\u80dc\u51fa\u51e0\u4e4e\u6210\u4e86\u7537\u540c\u5fd7\u5c55\u73b0\u81ea\u5df1\u96c4\u98ce\u7684\u65b9\u5f0f\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n I went to a gay sauna the previous night with my boyfriend. Due to my questionable hometown complex and annoyance against the main road traffic, I picked Shanghai Street as the back lane, finding our way from Jordan to Mong Kok. The tacit rule between us in the gay sauna is that we would stop talking to each other from that moment on and then separately join what other men have to offer us. Even when we meet each other again in that maze, we might ignore each other and carry on. Of course, we would talk to each other again about the night experiences, after another tacit moment arrives. We might repeat this process; we might not. On that Saturday evening, the men in the sauna stuck to the walls like ventouses, echoing the sound of gratification from surrounding compartments. I rubbed against the arms and legs, and manoeuvred through the labyrinth of poorly lit corridors. Unlike my boyfriend, who got the scores, I did not tag out that night, and I lost interest after two hours. It was at this time that a cynical philosophical idea hit me as a veil for my frustration\u2014I hate selections. Receiving the regards of too many, a sex scene turns into window shopping, that is, showing and picking. 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He was afraid. H, I, V, those three letters are like three lancets, lancing the boundaries of sex pleasure, nationality and money. The HIV post-exposure prophylaxis is unaffordable in Hong Kong, which can be called the blind spot of its public health system. My boyfriend, who has been accustomed to free healthcare, probably would not be happy to pay that price for the drugs. I had to break my muteness, consoling him that the likelihood of infection is very low for a single exposure, while teasing him with jealousy. 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After we left Hong Kong, the city of finance brothers\u2019 playground, I went back to the dusty Shanghai, and he went back to the rainy Manchester. I wonder, how many cities has this pair of second-hand, lost-and-found sunglasses seen, of their lighting and barrenness? If the sunglasses can talk, they will have more to say than I, after reading those two sentences. 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